The first thing every parent seems to do is blame themselves for behavioural issues that arise with their kids. While every parent has one mission and one mission only, to raise their kids to be well rounded, good mannered, intelligent adults, there’s still a piece that parents overlook. No matter how much you work to teach your kids, they still have that little element of personal choice. Kids can be taught to be more responsible but it will take them a few mishaps to learn how to truly be accountable for their actions. Today we want to discuss a few strategies to help your kids become more responsible, this alleviates the parents feeling as if they failed and helps guide the kids forward to being responsible, well-rounded adults.
Stop Making Excuses
Using the excuse that you are to blame for the mishaps that your kids have happen in their life is the first step towards parents creating excuses for their kids. Sure you can take a small blame if you must, but you need to let that go and never say it aloud where kids can hear. Kids will hang onto any excuse that they can and you don’t need to help them make excuses. Stop
making excuses for your kids’ behavior, start holding them accountable for their own decisions and actions.
Stop Giving Solutions
At a certain age you can stop giving your kids solutions, even at the toddler level you can start letting go and allow your kid to make their own decisions with some things. When you start young, you will have an easier time teaching them to be more responsible as they age. Learn to stop stepping in when they feel overwhelmed or uncertain of what to do. If you allow your kids to make their own decisions by giving them time to problem solve, you will find responsibility comes easier for them.
Make them Contribute
Think of your household as a team, each person having their own responsibilities to be a part of the bigger whole. Assigning chores and requiring that each kid picks up after themselves is the start to helping your kids become more responsible. When kids are raised in a home where they must contribute in some way to the household they quickly learn how to be more responsible without much effort. Be certain that each family member knows what’s expected of them to contribute to the family as a whole.
Last, but not least, it’s on you to provide routine and structure for your kids from day one. As the kids get older your routine for them may adjust because most anything in life has room for growth. Learning to provide the proper structure and routine in the home allows your kids to become more responsible for they will always know what’s expected of them when, where and how. These tips shared today should help you guide your kids to become more responsible and in turn you will beam with parental pride because you helped them along the way by letting go.